• Let Him Indulge You

“It’s not what we do when we go out, it’s the ritual we perform when
we get home. I peel off my clothes while my man runs a bath. Then he
sits on the side of the tub and washes me from head to toe.”

• Dance Your Hearts Out

“To get our adrenaline going just before we go out, I roll up the
carpet in the living room, dim the lights, crank the CD player to a mix
of our favorite dance tunes and start dancing solo. My husband usually
comes rushing in to watch me, and after a song or two he can’t help but
join in.”

• Sweeten Your Love

“My guy and I both love chocolate. We swear it heightens our senses.
To make our date nights special, one of us usually surprises the other
by picking up a few expensive treats at the chocolatier (like hazelnut
truffles or cinnamon-flavored ganache).

Then we feed them to each other. Starting the night with this
over-the-top indulgence always helps set the scene for lots more
hedonistic fun.”

• Transform Your Living Room

“We turn our living room floor into a romantic space by moving the
coffee table off to the side so we have room to lay down layers of soft
blankets. We cover the lamps with scarves, light scented candles and
incense, and put fresh flowers in the room.

We also keep chocolate-covered strawberries, a bottle of our favorite
wine and a basket of massage oils nearby. For a few hours our ordinary
room is turned into our own sensual play space.”

• Turn Up the Heat in the Theater

“My husband and I felt obliged to check out a neighbor’s performance
in a production of Les Misérables at our local playhouse. To
add some pleasure to the painful performance, we started passing sassy
notes back and forth.

They were about the wild things we wished we could be doing with each
other instead of watching the play. I don’t know who was more shocked —
and turned on — by the secret sex suggestions, my husband or me.”