Until recently, men and women’s roles of dating etiquette have been clearly
defined. However, now there is some confusion between what each gender’s
role is. So, here are a few rules to follow that will help simplify
that confusion.

1. Being punctual is important. It looks like you
are organized and responsible. If you are running late, have the
courtesy to call him.

2. Not showing up for a date is immature and
not acceptable behavior. If something comes up that prevents you from
making the date, call him and
cancel.

3. When you arrive, make sure you are well groomed. A man
will be turned off if you do not comb your hair or brush your teeth.
This is the stage to make a lasting impression. You want to leave with
him asking for another date, right?

4. Dating should not be hard. It should be fun and
enjoyable.

5. When you first see your date, compliment him. Say,
“It’s really nice to see you again.” or “You look really nice.”

6.
When you are on first a date,
body language is probably one of the top things your date notices. Make
sure you smile a lot, make eye contact, and do not play with your hair
(especially if you are in a restaurant).

7. Pay attention to your
date. Do not let your eyes wander. He will think that you are not
interested.

8. Excessive smoking and drinking is a huge
turn-off. If you are in a restaurant, limit your alcohol consumption.
You do not want to get drunk, pass out at the table, or vomit on the
floor.

9. Do not act arrogant or obnoxious. Also, try to stay
away from discussing politics and religion.

10. Try not to act
pretentious or flashy on the first date.

11. When you are on a
date, do not use vulgarity.

12. Please, I cannot stress this
enough. A first date is never a
proper time to talk about ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands. Men do not want
to hear about your last boyfriend. They are interested in hearing about
you.

13. Never tell lies. If you do, it will eventually catch up
with you. There is nothing more embarrassing than being caught in a lie.

14.
Do not ever pretend to be single when you are on a date. This makes
you look promiscuous.

15. Since we live in the twenty-first
century, if you asked someone to dinner, I believe that you should have
intentions to pay the bill. When the bill comes to the table, make an
effort to pay it. However, if he insists on paying the bill, let him.
The next time that you go out, it will be your financial responsibility.

16.
Ask questions about your date. Wait until he has completed his answer
before you start talking. Do not talk about money and do not monopolize
the conversation.

17. I recommend that you make the first date a
little shorter than usual. Remember, if things go well, you can always
extend it.

18. After the date has ended, as the woman, you should
only call your date once. It is rude to call twice without
reciprocation. When you call or send multiple emails, you force him
away. Men do not like women that are needy and clingy, especially, after
the first date.

19. Be safe and not too trusting in the
beginning. When you are meeting someone for a date, observe your
suuroundings. You do not want any trouble, especially if you were
drinking throughout the night. Again, keep alcohol to a minimum, if any
at all.

I hate to say, but in dating there are unwritten laws and
rules. It is a test of compatibility. We ask, “Should I go out with him?
Does he like me? Was that comment out of line? When is he going to ask
me to marry him?” There are no definitive answers to these questions. We
just don’t know these answers; so just try to enjoy the time that you
spend on each date.